Q. I currently lack the strength and will to go to confession because I fear I may omit details that are necessary. As a result, my absolution will be invalid. I need peace.
A. This is all generated by scrupulosity. You will never be able to satisfy the need for details that scrupulosity demands. If a priest needs more details from you to understand what you are confessing, he will ask you for clarification. If he does not ask for more details, you can presume that you are fine. Your confession is valid, no matter what you feel.
Q. I work in a hospital, and when we are discussing patients, we are expected to use their preferred pronouns. Is it a sin to use their preferred pronouns?
A. No, it is not a sin. We live in a secular society, and there are certain expectations and norms. Politeness and respect are two such norms. Using a person’s pronouns is not approval; it is respect. Do not make it more than it is. You have enough to worry about.